1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
I have seen this scripture reworded, in tattoo form and written all the time for various situations. My question is this: who actually applies ALL of these words? Is this the set template for love? Or is there another “recipe” for achieving love? Are there some other unwritten rules that everyone should apply without question? What is the real deal with love?
From observing different relationships, in romantic and friendship form, I have learned that people fail at learning how to love and/or how to accept it. It’s nothing that someone intends to do, but it is something that can alter a relationship.
People grow up with different backgrounds and end up having their own versions of what love is. This is an important factor to keep in mind because love is often reciprocated in the way that it has been seen or given. The way one person has seen their parents love may be different from the next person. Same goes with reception of love.
This idea reminds me of a book written by Alex Elle titled LOVE In My Language. Now, I haven’t read the book in its entirety yet but what I did read was amazing. Everyone has their language in which they “speak” their love, but the challenge is finding someone who either “speaks” the same language or is at least willing to learn it. And vice versa.
I was fortunate enough to grow up in an environment with an over abundance of love, some like to call it being spoiled but my mommy says otherwise! Anyways, not only did people express their love verbally, but they also took action to show their love. There was always food, shelter, clothes, toys, electronics, happiness/joy and verbal affirmations/encouragement from family and friends. I understand that not everyone is fortunate enough to receive a “recipe” for love like the one I was given, but that doesn’t mean that theirs cannot be re-written.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7, in its entirety, is my template for giving and receiving love. At the end of the day I don’t think that there is any set “recipe” to love. I mean, hey, any recipe can be altered to fit the needs of that specific person. We just have to be mindful not to shun someone else when theirs has different ingredients.
I’ll end with this quote:
“We must LOVE one another and see in one another the beauty of the soul.” – Carol F. McConkie
*Remember to Trust the Process.