Now, I know you may be wondering what I’m about to say. Maybe you think i’m about to give you some tips on how to get a monetary check for you whole team. I am not…well in a sense it could end up that way, but thats not my focus right now.
What I am asking is this: do you need to take a step back from everything and evaluate/re-evaluate who is on your team? We are getting close to the end of the year, 2 1/2 months to be exact, and you need to start evaluating who will be with you in 2018 right NOW! You cannot wait until the 11th hour or until a big blow up happens to know who is really for you. I really want to stress the importance of this evaluation because it could potentially cost you your peace, sanity, dream, all of your hard work, love, and, God forbid, YOUR MIND!!
I started thinking about this topic last week when I had a check off for lab and I was sitting just around with my classmates when we all got to talking about our success and how our last semester in the program (next semester) will go. The last semester of nursing school is split up into two 6 week periods, the first six weeks you only have 3 tests (2 regular and 1 final) and that alone is S C A R Y ! ! ! So, needless to say, it is easy to fail out in your very last semester in school! From that, we drifted towards the topic of one situation where one of our classmates was petitioning for one more chance to repeat the last semester. ALL I kept hearing from those surrounding me was negative professions:
- “I don’t think that they’ll let her back in…”
- “they’re super strict on their policies. There is no way!”
- “*insert negative comment on how said person has 0 faith for other said person*”
I think you get the gist of what i’m saying.
I’m very vocal around my peers so I decided to make the statement that I had to watch what I said around them because they clearly do not have unwavering faith. I told them that I had faith in and for her and that I clearly needed to move away from that environment because I just COULD NOT with the negativity.
I truly believed that they would give this person another chance, not only because I will need SOMEONE to give me another chance one day, but also because nursing school is hard work and seeing them get to the end then not make it was not an option!! I need people around me who I KNOW are going to have faith for me when my strength happens to be down. I need people who are going to speak up for me even when i’m not around! I need my people to have some positivity in their words!
Our words have POWER!!
So, I am constantly checking my team and, not only seeing who is still for me, but also seeing how I can be there for them. This isn’t a one-way system! Someone once said that you are a direct result of the 5 people you are closest to, your few true. You need your “few true” to keep you going, these are: the people you talk to all the time, tell your dreams AND failures to, the people who carry you when you’re weak, and the people who push you past your current standard to reach a level past what you can even imagine!!
Make sure your people are okay and that the people around you (co-workers, friends, group members, peers, classmates, etc.) have your back, contingent upon the level of your relationship, of course. Make sure that they are for you 110% and nothing less. Evaluate the level of your relationship with everyone around you because there might need to be a level change for some people. The season might be up for someone and it takes you making that re-evaluation to realize that. If you don’t do anything else, make these 3 checks:
- Do they love me? Truly?
- On what level do they have my back? How invested are they in me and what I am doing/going to do? How do they speak to and about me?
- How much faith do they have in me? Especially when i’m in the valley and not on top of the mountain.
This is a short way in which you can decipher your few true v. family v. friends v. associates. Everyone who is with you isn’t always FOR you. Some people are with you for convenience, not because they’re committed to you and your purpose. That’s all it boils down to: protecting your purpose and following in the will that God has for you!
Again, don’t wait until you have a breakdown or a falling out to evaluate your team! Sometimes thats what it takes, but if you don’t have to wait for that to happen, then don’t!
And if nobody else is, know that I am rooting for you!
OH, and if you’re wondering if my one classmate got another chance, they did! Faith of a mustard seed is all you need. God will handle the rest.
*Always remember to trust the process